In this post, Abi Adeyanju and Uzo Ijewere from Fink Africa share 7 tips for parents to help their children develop resilience to inevitable life experiences.
PREPARATION; A KEY COMPONENT FOR EVOLVING KIDS
Parents whose children have been through the secondary system would probably agree with me that the emotional and physical state of mind of our primary school leavers is not so hard to detect. This is probably because they are eager and over excited about their move into new yet different territory.
For `most’ parents, we pretty much feel the same excitement. One minute they are our babies then toddlers, nursery school caterpillars and eventually, full blown elementary scholars. Most of all, the joy of a parent observing the gradual progression and achievement of their little ones now evolving into pre-teens brings a great deal of satisfaction.
As we raise our children, we realise that we owe them a great deal to help them achieve their greatest heights as well as prepare them for the opportunities, responsibilities and experiences of later life.
However, they progress on this journey, parents should be consciously aware that we also owe it to our children to prepare their social and emotional acceptance of other children who may present themselves as’ not so friendly’, from ‘dysfunctional homes’, not so tact with the use of language, over exposed for their age, having no regard for others and possessing very impulsive characters.
This can easily cause a brief emotional distress in a child as they find it difficult to settle as quickly as they should, due to the harsh reality of what they weren’t expecting. This would be more predominant with children who move out of their country to school abroad; where they would experience a degree of diversity in race and culture.
Prepare For The Inevitable
The least thing any parent would want is to inadvertently do their kids any form of injustice by failing to prepare them for certain experiences that are inevitable. Without further ado, as your children get on in their schools, I implore parents to, constantly;
- Build their self esteem
- Test their values from time to time
- Teach those mechanisms on how to block out rude or unacceptable comments made towards them
- Teach them how to respond to peer pressure and if it proves too difficult, what the possible next action would be
- Teach them not to be afraid to speak to a teaching staff if they can’t handle situations. They are trained to be tactful in all circumstances
- Children should be made aware that other children’s bad behaviour towards them could be a sign of an unhappy home
- Give your child the chance to be open with you
- Use fink cards more often to unlock opinions and encourage free flow conversations. Often, issues they haven’t been prepared for will arise.