Getting Families Talking at Mealtimes
I am moving house and uncovering all sorts of treasure as we clear out and pack up. This week, hidden in the shed, I uncovered a disc of some filming I did way back in 2009 when I first started Fink. It was wonderful to watch the footage again and to be reminded how we started out.
In this post, Abi Adeyanju and Uzo Ijewere from Fink Africa share 7 tips for parents to help their children develop resilience to inevitable life experiences.
PREPARATION; A KEY COMPONENT FOR EVOLVING KIDS
Parents whose children have been through the secondary system would probably agree with me that the emotional and physical state of mind of our primary school leavers is not so hard to detect. This is probably because they are eager and over excited about their move into new yet different territory. Read more
I think we often underestimate how powerful family talking can be and the impact it can have. As we investigate here at Fink the benefits of talking, we find more and more research that just compounds what we already know – talking really matters.
Family Communication Research
Here is the most recent research I found, that totally blew me away, a study by Hart and Risley in New York. Read more
When we tell most people that we get families talking, we sometimes here groans and moans and often people telling us they have no time to have real conversations, what with all the things to do.
Talking to your children does not have to be complicated. All you need to start the conversation is just ask a question; any spare minute will do. Read more
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Yvonne Wake (BSc. MSc), a Public Health Nutritionist at Roehampton University, London, has written a paper on nutrition and the role a family plays, she agrees that it’s important to eat meals together as a family.
“Talking to children over dinner is a great way of gaining trust and they are more likely to talk about things that could sometimes feel uncomfortable. Regular meal times altogether give children the opportunity to discuss problems with family members; it relaxes and encourages them to wind down. From an emotional standpoint, research shows that children who frequently eat with their families have better results at school, are less depressed, less likely to drink alcohol, smoke, or use marijuana than children who eat with their families less than twice a week,” says Wake. Read more
Family Communication have you got it sorted?
Most families will tell me that they their family has no trouble communicating. But do you really?
What most parents mean when they say that is “I talk a lot and my child listens” . Is that really communication?
In my mind all communication should serve a purpose.
It will either
1. Move an event/situation forward.
2. Allow you to find out some information that you need.
3. Allow you to move closer to your child and increase that relationship.
Most of the time Family Communication is just words often with no purpose at all. We ask a question out of habit not really listening to or wanting to hear the answer. Most communication does not connect us with those that matter and does not move anything forward.
So before you speak be honest are the words really necessary, do they serve a purpose? If not don’t speak! Try listening instead.
Break the cycel in your home with our family communication cards.
One in four of the children interviewed said their parents had never talked to them about alcohol.
Do you talk to your children about alcohol? Do you know where to start?
A Department for Children, Families and Schools study suggests children from heavy-drinking households are more likely to use alcohol themselves.
It also found that eight out of 10 parents had no pre-planned strategies to tackle irresponsible drinking by their children.
While the majority of parents said they were fully aware of their child’s drinking habits, one in 10 said they were unaware if their child had drunk alcohol.
The research is being published as part of a campaign to tackle under-age drinking.
Schools Minister Vernon Coaker said: “Today’s research shows that parents underestimate their influence over their child’s drinking and attitudes to alcohol, yet a quarter of young people have never spoken to their parents about the issue.
“That’s why through the Why Let Drink Decide? campaign we are giving parents and young people the confidence to have open conversations about alcohol, to ultimately delay the age at which young people start drinking.”
We say talk to your children now and if you need some help of where to start check out our Teen Conversation Cards